Young Woman Opens Up About How Asian Mom Berated Her For Having Acne

As teenagers or adults, some of us had the unfortunate experience of having acne and being judged by our very own flesh and blood for it! It’s not like we asked for pimples, right? They just pop up and make our lives harder.

Elizabeth Claire may be an advocate for skin positivity but she has her share of dark times too.

The influencer, who suffers from chronic acne, shared about how her Asian mom berated her for having acne in the first place.

“As soon as I started getting acne in my late teens, my own mother called me ugly,” she began in a heartfelt Instagram post.

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DOES YOUR FAMILY HURT YOU WITH THEIR WORDS? Comment down below 😔⬇️ #chatwithliz As soon as I started getting #acne in my late teens my own mother called me ugly. She said “how could you let your face turn like that? I gave birth to a beautiful girl but now it’s just so unfortunate. No boy would want to marry you.” I never really received ‘love’ from her and always compared her to my western friends mothers . My mum & I never exchanged hugs or kisses. She would insult me and scream at me for my skin. It wasn’t because I was eating junk food & not washing my face like she assumed (I had thousands of skincare products, I changed my diet, I went on meds etc. but still nothing) My acne got so bad, i didnt want to leave the house & for a long period of time, I really hated my mum. I never felt like I could open up to her & all the anger and resentment was bottled up inside, I felt so alone. Until one day I broke. I started balling my eyes out, screamed at her & I’m not kidding I felt like I couldn’t breathe because she made me feel like this ugly unwanted daughter. But I did not expect what happened next. She stood there in silence & then she actually wholeheartedly apologised. For so long I forced myself to believe that my mum …being Asian and all wouldn’t understand & that it’s completely okay to let mothers insult and berate you over and over again . But honestly all it takes is to have the courage to really communicate your emotions & really not take her comments to heart. Anyways, I made her do a face mask with me (granted it was her first and last time) SWIPE 😂 I wanted to share this experience because when you think they won’t understand, you’d be surprised because they do have the capacity to show empathy. Since then I have a much stronger relationship with my mum and I’m no longer affected by her once harsh words 😂( like the time I dyed my hair blonde and she called me an insane lady 😂 & my dad said my hair looked like burnt corn) Remember, family members say things but at the end of the day they love you and some may show it in different ways 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦 Communicate with them, laugh it out, cry it out – it helps ❤️ XOXO Your gal, Liz

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“She said “how could you let your face turn like that? I gave birth to a beautiful girl but now it’s just so unfortunate. No boy would want to marry you.”

“As soon as I started getting acne in my late teens, my own mother called me ugly.”

If you’re an Asian daughter, you’ll probably be familiar with this scenario – harsh comments by our parents for our appearance that simply isn’t perfect enough.

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Pink hair don’t care (jks I actually care so I went semi permanent which means it’d wash off after two weeks or so HAHA) 😆😆 for everyone asking via dms I used @briteorganix 😆🤪 I mixed it with my conditioner and washed it off after ten mins. My everyday make up is @becoyote . I use mineral powder foundation and it gives me a great coverage but feels super light. Lately though, my cheeks look patchy because my skin has been super dry due to topical treatments (if you watch my stories you know that I’m currently healing my stress acne) xo also happy lunar new year to my Asian babies xx it’s the year of a pig! 🥰😍 p.s if you look close enough, I have a scar near my brow – a brick once fell on my head when I was 6 and I almost died/got blinded but luckily i recovered 😱❤️ #lifeupdate #skin #makeup #cysticacne #pinkhair

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Elizabeth is no stranger to this. “My mum and I never exchanged hugs or kisses. She would insult me and scream at me for my skin. It wasn’t because I was eating junk food and not washing my face like she assumed.”

“She would insult me and scream at me for my skin.”

The 23-year-old had thousands of skincare products, changed my diet, and went on meds but the results had amounted to nothing. Acne is a puzzling issue, sometimes you can do everything in the world and those stubborn zits still won’t go away. It only gets worse when other people tell you to simply “wash your face.”

Elizabeth shared that her acne got so bad, she didn’t want to leave her house for a long period of time.

“I really hated my mum. I never felt like I could open up to her, and all the anger and resentment was bottled up inside, I felt so alone. Until one day I broke.”

She started crying her eyes out and screaming at her mom. “I felt like I couldn’t breathe because she made me feel like this ugly unwanted daughter.”

“She made me feel like this ugly unwanted daughter.”

The skin positivity advocate did not expect what happened next. Her mom stood there in silence & then she actually wholeheartedly apologised.

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⚠️⚠️⚠️ #CHATWITHLIZ ✨✨✨I applied makeup on today and wanted to take pretty photos because I really liked my hair 😊 but ….when I looked back at my selfies, I couldnt help but focus on my prominent scars and odd pimples. I suddenly felt ugly 😩 then I began feeling pathetic “liz how long has it been and you’re still feeling this way?!” I said to myself. But ofcourse, upon reflection I realised I shouldn’t feel guilty and put myself down even more for my previous thoughts. I think I’m telling you this is because I have those moments of weakness too like everybody else , and I guess that’s what makes us human. We feel certain emotions such as hopelessness and despair and it’s completely valid. It’s important to acknowledge them AND equally important to get through them even if it takes TIME AND TIME again. It is through these instances that allow us to grow. Whenever you are sad, remember that not being ok, is ok. Don’t silence your emotions ❤️❤️ self reflect or talk to someone (feel free to dm me). We can’t always be happy all the time! But we definitely can try to ask ourselves questions about why we are feeling the way we feel. That way we can come out stronger than ever! I hope I make sense here haha ❤️❤️✨✨✨✨Anyways COMMENT about your day or about anything below and let’s connect ❤️❤️⬇️⬇️ Sending you guys love XOXO Your gal, Liz —————————————————————— #acne #scars #selfimage #love #makeup #bare #skin #curly #hair

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“For so long I forced myself to believe that my mum, being Asian and all wouldn’t understand. And that it’s completely okay to let mothers insult and berate you over and over again.”

“But honestly all it takes is to have the courage to really communicate your emotions and really not take her comments to heart,” she shared.

“All it takes is to have the courage to really communicate your emotions and really not take her comments to heart.”

Then, Elizabeth and her mom did a mother-daughter face mask together! It’s so cute!

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Elizabeth wanted to share this experience with other people who are facing a similar situation.

“When you think they won’t understand, you’d be surprised because they do have the capacity to show empathy.”

Since then, the young woman has a much stronger relationship with her mom and she’s no longer affected by her harsh words. Just don’t take it to heart!

Elizabeth has a few words for those of us with ‘really Asian’ Asian parents, “Remember, family members say things but at the end of the day they love you and some may show it in different ways. Communicate with them, laugh it out, cry it out – it helps.”

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“Remember, family members say things but at the end of the day they love you and some may show it in different ways.”

We’re glad Elizabeth found a friend in her mom!

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