Why Is Love So Complicated? Here’s What You Need To Know
You’d like to believe that your relationship is different from everyone else’s. We have this idea that our own relationship can beat all odds. But it’s most probably not.
Here are three reasons why love is so complicated! PS Try to keep an open mind while reading this and just maybe, when you find love, it stays.
We seem to always attract people who’ll drive us crazy
Gretchen Rubin, author of “The Four Tendencies” book, she noticed that “rebels” would pair up romantically with “obligers”. Rebels are the resisters in the relationship. If you ask a rebel to do something, they’ll most likely resist. Whereas, the obligers would conform to the outer expectations of the relationship, but not the inner ones because they’re looking for some form of external accountability.
She told the Business Insider, “If you’re an upholder, you live life according to a schedule. [For example] you never miss your daily run, and you always eat fewer than 30 grams of carbs a day, and you always go to bed by 11. It could be exciting to be swept off your feet by somebody who feels very free and not confined.” But conflict can arise because of the two different approaches in a relationship.
The “one” most probably does not exist!
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Are you doubting if the person you’re with is the one for you? In this week’s episode, @marygrace_dharshaini and @liyanamh discusses on what true love really means, and how you can find out if you’re with the one – with advices from an expert. Check out the full video up on our YouTube channel! P.S. We’re having a watch party tonight on our Facebook at 9PM – join us for a fun conversation 😊
Rozy Khalid, Clinical Psychologist from The Mind told Likely, “He’s ‘The One’ is a very subjective term”, explaining that it differs for each individual. She added, “You’re not going to find the perfect guy!”
“I don’t think you should find the one, instead, make the one by openly accepting his flaws”
There are times where you’ll feel miserable in your relationship
Know that total happiness is hard to come by. So when there are good times, there are also bad times. There will be fights and disagreements but the key here is to always communicate. It’s all part of human nature! Talk it out and never keep things in if you want to make things work.