So, Are You Ready For A “Friends-With-Benefits” Relationship?

If you’ve watched enough TV in the past decade, you’re probably familiar with the term “friends-with-benefits.”

This type of experience isn’t only Hollywood-esque, you can do it IRL too if you want to.

If you’ve been thinking about having a “friends-with-benefits” relationship with a friend, read on below to see if you’re ready for a no strings attached ride.

What is a “friends-with-benefits” relationship?

You may be familiar with Gossip Girl’s Dan and Vanessa, in which they had a “friends-with-benefits” relationship that worked out sorta well, or at least well enough that they managed to say “I love you” sometimes.

“Friends-with-benefits” refers to a pair of friends, who have a type of sexual attachment with no commitments, a.k.a. friends who are hooking up with no strings attached. In most relationships, it’s about setting up appropriate guidelines and not getting too attached to the person you’re hooking up with. According to, 40% of survey participants aged 18 to 25 prefer a “friends-with-benefits” relationship compared to actual commitment.

What are the benefits?

The “benefits” referred to in this experience would usually be physical, sexual or in some cases, financial in nature. It may be necessary for you or your benefit-friend if neither of you is ready to enter a committed relationship, but want to share certain experiences together. There are no responsibilities and no need to overthink, you’re not bound to any unwritten rules of a relationship.

One thing is for sure, if you’re keen on a “friends-with-benefits” experience, you’ll need emotional independence. The question is, do you have it?

Do you have emotional independence?

If you’re able to distance yourself emotionally from the guy you’re having sex, or other forms of intimate physical contact with, then you’re probably ready for a friends-with-benefits relationship.

When you can spend time by yourself without feeling the need to check-in on your not-so-boyfriend, you’re probably emotionally independent enough to go along with this. While you may find yourself falling for him, remind yourself about the nature of this relationship. You got this, girl!