3 Warning Signs You’re Settling For A Painstakingly Mediocre Relationship
Some people want it all, some people settle for mediocre relationships. That’s just the way the world works.
Of course, most of us have experienced “putting up with our partners.” Whether it’s bad behaviour or utter boringness, we’ll break up eventually, right? Unfortunately, the opposite is true. Quite often, you’ll find people settling for partners they’re not completely happy with.
What if you’re settling for a painstakingly mediocre relationship that you may not even enjoy? People “settle” for various reasons, but you can’t fool your heart for too long. Here are 3 warning signs you’re settling for a lifetime of mediocrity, and 3 reasons why you deserve better, kween.
1. You’re compromising for your partner
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Although every relationship does require an amount of compromising, it’s not exactly a great sign if you’re the one doing the most. If you’re changing your values and goals in a big way – like if you don’t want children, but your partner does and you follow his wants anyway – then you’re definitely settling for something you may not really want.
Why you deserve better: When it comes to compromising, it’s never really about giving yourself up. You compromise with your partner to reach a common understanding, and not let go of your ambitions up one way or another.
2. You’ve stopped being in love
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You and your partner lack the chemistry you once had, and you’re wondering why they don’t spark joy in your life any more (perhaps it’s time to KonMari this relationship?). You may still love each other, but you’ve stopped being in love. You’ve stopped going on dates, enjoying each other’s company, and being sweet towards each other. You feel alone, yet trapped in this relationship. Is this how it’s gonna be forever?
Why you deserve better: A relationship is all about the little things. You need someone who will fall more and more in love with you as each day passes by, and you with him. You need someone who makes your heart race, yet whose presence comforts you at the same time. Yep, you definitely deserve better.
3. You think about being single, but fear it
Most people settle who settle for mediocre relationships because they’re afraid of being single. Singlehood is something that can be enjoyed by many adults, despite the stereotypes perpetuated by the TV shows we’ve watched. If you keep hanging onto your partner just because you’re afraid of being single, the foundation of your relationship may be a shaky one. What if he’s doing the exact same thing?
Why you deserve better: If you’re thinking about being single while you’re in a relationship that’s mediocre-ing you to death, maybe you’re better off on your own. Put on a full face of makeup, a gorgeous outfit, a suit of confidence and walk out that door to the world of singlehood. It’s not as scary as it seems.
