5 Signs You’re Dating A Narcissist & You Need To Break Up – Pronto!
Dating is already tough, but dating a narcissist can be even tougher. What was once a fairytale relationship could spiral downwards, and you can’t, for the life of you, figure out why.
Narcissism can also be a mental health condition known as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) but it’s not an excuse to be a jerk. While regular people can be narcissistic sometimes, narcissists take this behavior to a whole new level. Narcissists have an inflated sense of self-importance, are completely blind to their partner’s needs, and will exploit others for their benefit, even their loved ones.
If you feel like something isn’t right with your relationship but you can’t tell exactly what is it, read on to see if you’re dating a narcissist.
1. Your partner used to make you feel special AF… but now…
… he treats you like you’re of less importance than everyone else. In relationships, sparks can fizzle out with time, but in relationships with narcissists, the difference between the first month of dating and fifth month can be startling. Maybe he used to text you every day, bring you flowers, and told you that you were both super compatible. He practically showered you with months’ worth of love.
From then on, it went downhill, and your partner now ignores your texts, tells you you’re being dramatic, and yet he expects you to treat him nicely.
2. Your partner likes to hog the conversation
Narcissists tend to hog the conversation and talk about themselves, or they turn the conversation into something about themselves. A little pompousness is fine but if you have to live with it every day, it can get tiring. Your partner tends to think that he’s better than everyone else (even you, so don’t be surprised if he starts critiquing the way you do things).
Your partner won’t engage in a conversation with you either. If you try to talk to them about something, they’ll spin the conversation into a topic that relates to them.
3. You feel like your partner gaslights you
Gaslighting is a form of emotional manipulation that narcissists tend to use. Your partner will tell blatant lies, like “I never said we were having a date today” when he clearly did, and asked you to dress up nicely. He will also falsely accuse you, or turn your problems into something about him. If you try to bring up the fact that he doesn’t listen to you, he’ll probably say something like, “Well, you don’t communicate properly with me either!”
In the end, you’d end up apologizing to him, which brings us to our next point…
4. They never apologize
Narcissists never apologize. They believe that they’re always right, and that as their partner, you must always believe that they’re right. Even if they hurt you, a narcissistic partner would expect YOU to apologize for hurting him. Sounds twisted, right? Unfortunately, that’s the reality of dating a narcissist is. If they’re late for a date, you’d have to apologize for being early. If they cancel plans, they’ll make you apologize for making plans.
They’re not downright abusive, but their emotional abuse takes a toll on you, and you won’t even get to hear a “sorry.”
5. They can’t commit to you 100%
If your partner says that he doesn’t want to “label” your relationship even if you’ve been going out for more than 6 months… watch out. Narcissists tend to think that they deserve better, and deserve someone better than you. If your partner won’t commit to a relationship with you, they’re not being wishy-washy, they’re looking out for someone else.
They may have the audacity to flirt too, and when confronted about it, they’ll accuse you of being dramatic. Most of the time, you feel like you’re single.
Well, there you have it, the telltale signs that your partner is a narcissist. If you’re thinking about breaking up, just remember that it’s better to be single and happy than to be taken and still heartbroken every day.