Red Flags You Might’ve Missed From Guys Like Joe
Remember Joe Goldberg from Netflix’s hit show You?
Acted by Penn Badgley a.k.a Gossip Girl’s Dan Humphrey, he seemed like the perfect guy that girls can only dream of. What’s not to like — he’s creative, funny, thoughtful, charming, self-effacing and kind of cute! That is, until Joe starts showing his sick and twisted dark-side.
However, even after this sweet, caring boyfriend turns into a frenzied stalker-turned serial killer, some of us still gushed over Joe. P/S: The guy’s a murderer, people!
A: He is a murderer https://t.co/g2g4f3JvaF
— Penn Badgley (@PennBadgley) January 9, 2019
This isn’t the first time the media portrayed these type of men as “hot” — such as Ted Bundy, portrayed by Zac Efron in Extremely Wicked, Shockingly Evil and Vile. Is it because it’s a movie that we seem to think that it’s okay or are we actually attracted to bad guys in real life? If you’re one of the guilty ones, here are some red flags!
So oblivious because of his good looks
In an interview with The New York Times, Penn mentioned that Joe got away with so many things because of his good looks. He said, “In my experience, it tends to be men who are more horrified by Joe”. How many times have you been oblivious of the guy’s wrongdoings only because you were blinded by charms and good looks? SAME. The moment he apologises for it, you go soft on him.
Is Beck Oblivious? I feel I like she turned a blind eye. She believed him so easily when he “just showed up” at the book thing. I feel like she felt he was “odd” in a way and she possibly ignored red flags because he was very cute, very accommodating and worked in a bookstore.
— GypsyNomad (@Moongirl7117) January 11, 2019
You didn’t realise how possessive he has become
You know how Joe seems to be appearing everywhere Guinevere Beck is? You might fall for him because he seems to be always there when you need someone, totally missing how he is actually possessive! He wants to be with you all the time, till one day, it’ll just hit you that you’re suffocating.
I think oblivious to what he's really up to but knows he's really into her so plays on that, especially at the beginning. Then, as you say, red flags but by that point she's already embroiled in his mind games and enjoys that he seems to be the only person to understand her
— Allison Green (@alligatoruk) January 11, 2019
He mind-f**ks YOU
Honestly, that tweet is so damn real. Sometimes we get so lost in the relationship, that we’ve become so complacent with our partner. Love is blind anyways, and we always value our partner’s thoughts. We lose the very essence of ourselves and beliefs! Say if our partner doesn’t enjoy hanging out with our friends and claims they’re toxic, you might just start to believe they are.