#MenAskLikely: “Why Is Sex Better After A Fight?”
“I don’t mean a fight fight, I mean, like an argument. Why do I get so horny after I argue with my partner, and why is the sex so good?” – Peter, 35
Thanks for asking, Peter. We hope the argument wasn’t so bad, and that it’s been resolved now. First of all, it’s be honest adults here, sex is probably one of the best ways to make up with your partner after a fight. It’s better than getting the silent treatment.
So, why does sex seem so much better after a fight? Make up sex can beat regular sex any day, and here’s why.
1. It’s your hormones
Humans are hormonal creatures, so when we argue with our partner, our stress hormone levels, which include testosterone, adrenaline, and cortisol spike up. This leaves us longing for closeness with our partner, which can be achieved through sex. So, here’s the reason why you choose sex over cuddling: an orgasm increases serotonin, dopamine, adrenaline, and oxytocin – all the love hormones, which calms you down after a fight.
2. It’s your kink
Oooooo… if you’re constantly horny when fighting with your partner, it could be a kinky thing for you. Like, really. We mean it. You could be into sadomasochism because it hurts so good. According to Cosmopolitan, fighting can stimulate sadomasochistic sexual fantasies, which basically means that you gain sexual pleasure from inflicting or receiving pain.
Ouch, but ayyyy. However, just because you like makeup sex doesn’t mean you’d be 100% down with BDSM. Maybe you just really like sex after a fight.
3. You have the energy for it
You could be really tired, but a fight would pump adrenaline into your bloodstream and get you pumped for the make up sex marathon ahead. When you’re anxious, which can be triggered by the fight, you’ll be in tune with your fight or flight response, and in this case, the answer is fight – with sex. You need to shake off all that excess energy in some way, so why not with sex?