Love Your Reflection: Do These 5 Things Every Morning For A Week

As human beings, we tend to be so critical of ourselves.

As people, we allow what others think to shape our opinions and our love for ourselves.

 

It’s not easy to be confident when all you see in the mirror is a bundle of flaws, imperfections and problems that need fixing. Sometimes, all we need is a loving pat on the shoulder and to be told, “It’s okay; you’re enough”. And who better to hear this from than from the person you’re with 24/7 – yourself. However, actually getting into the practice of self-love can be challenging. Here are 5 steps for you to take, every morning (and night if you want to), to fall in love with yourself.

 

Compliment yourself each time you see your reflection.

Think of the people in your life that you love and respect. How do you treat them? You don’t critique them on how messy their eyebrows are, nor do you tell them that their socks don’t match their shirt. Instead, you tell them that their shoes are nice and that they look amazing with their new haircut. In the same way, you need to tell yourself good things. It’s so easy for us to see the good in others but it’s not as easy to do the same for ourselves. That is until you make the conscious effort to respect yourself the same way you respect others. Tell yourself how lovely you look, how nice your jeans fit, how bright your eyes are after a good night of sleep. It’s not selfish or self absorbent to care about yourself.

 

 

Wear your favourite colour and remind yourself how flattering the hue is on you.

Almost everyone has a favourite colour and often that colour makes us feel something. If your favourite colour is blue, you’re drawn to its cooling and/or calming effects. If you prefer the colour (or as some would argue – the shade black), it means that you prefer to have a measure of control and simplicity to your work, giving you an air of sophistication that is sure to boost your confidence. And even if you don’t have a singular preference for colour, alternate your preferences throughout the week.

 

 

Write down your accomplishments from the day before.

Do this somewhere you’re bound to see – like on your mirror.  Instead of just listing down the things you’ve done, list down the things you’ve accomplished. It’s easy to get swept up in the things that we need to get done (because it’s ‘work’ or something someone wants you to do) and in doing so, we forget to appreciate all the things we’ve done that actually make us proud.  When you do this, it helps you start the day with a sense of pride, you can tell yourself, “Hey! You know what? Today is going to be a good day. I got managed to accomplish xxx and today, I’m going to do more!.” This way, you’re shooting down that inner critic that you have inside you (one that we all have inside us) before it can make it’s way into your head and cause you to overthink. Find at least one thing for you to celebrate – no matter how big or small the accomplishment. Pat yourself on the back and be proud of what you have achieved. When you’re proud of yourself, it will show on your face and that glow will make you love yourself more.

 

 

Get rid of these 5 toxic beliefs.

Your beliefs shape your life – it shapes the way you think, the choices you make, the way you treat yourself and more. Oftentimes, a lot of what we believe in is not true. We get our beliefs from the environment we grew up in and from the things we consume as we grow. As a result, if we’ve been exposed to a narrower perspective or a more negative one, we tend to also be more negative. Some of the more common, toxic beliefs that you may not realise are negatively affecting your life are:

 

  • “The present is indicative of the future” – Just because things aren’t going well now, doesn’t mean they will remain that way forever.
  • “You should never allow yourself to be vulnerable” – You’re only able to grow as much as you allow yourself to feel uncomfortable. By challenging yourself, you are giving yourself space and time to embrace your mistakes, your imperfections and your shortcomings. After all, experience comes from living and learning comes from making mistakes.
  • “It is sad to be alone” – There is so much stigma against being alone. What most people don’t realise is that the strongest people are those that are comfortable being with themselves. These are the people who are so wholly accepting of their own flaws and their limitations that they are able to overcome them by being alone with themselves and working hard at improving.
  • “Take what people treat you personally” – It’s easy to let what people say and do affect us, especially if we believe that it is all our fault. The truth it, it’s more a reflection of how they think of themselves than it is an issue with you. Especially if all you’re doing is treating them with respect. If they lash out at you for a mistake that you’ve made, don’t take it to heart. Try to talk to them about it. Communication will lead to a happier, more optimistic and understanding world.

Most important of all – tell yourself to be patient. Be patient with yourself, be patient with the people around you and be patient with your progress. Self-love is not something that can be achieved overnight – it takes persistence and practice. But this persistence and practice will be all you need to get yourself through the tough times.

 

 

 

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Background: Photo by Nine Köpfer on Unsplash
'Be fearless': Photo by Amanda Jones on Unsplash
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