Love Struck: How To Flirt From Your Soul
Love is powerful. It can define moments in our lives and help to influence our life choices. If you’re like me, you probably grew up believing this narrative: You’d meet your dream partner in your 20s (maybe late teens if you were destined to experience young love). You’d feel instant chemistry with this perfect person, fall in love and live happily ever after.
Falling in love can be exciting and fulfilling as it’s one of the most wonderful feelings we can experience in our human lives. And if you’re lucky, you’d find a soulmate.
But before that, there are a few key concepts that you need to know in order to attract a potential soulmate and maintain a deep connection. Surprisingly, they’re far more straightforward than you think.
You can’t expect someone else to fall in love with you if you are not in love with yourself. When we judge or criticize ourselves, we send out an energy that repels others. Self-criticism is a negative energy that will repel potential mates.
On the other hand, self-love is attractive and is one of the simplest way to attract potential mates. Give yourself a break and make a list of ten characteristics you love about yourself. It doesn’t really matter what is on the list as long as it generates good feelings. Or, you could pamper yourself with some of these glorious gifts.
The more you focus on satisfying your needs, the more self-love you will experience. Others will fall in love with you, too, simply because it feels great to be around people who love themselves.
But first, you need to forgive yourself
We humans can be so hard on ourselves. The downside of growing up is the constant need to punish ourselves for past mistake and being stuck thinking about “what ifs”. You have to accept your humanness (the fact that you are not perfect), before you can truly love yourself. Practice being less hard on yourself when you make a mistake. Remember, there are no failures. If you have learned and grown from your mistakes, there are only lessons learned. However, if you still haven’t moved on from your past mistakes, you might risk losing it one day on your future partner due to trust issues.
Forgiving yourself will make it easier for you to accept future mates without being too quick to judge.
Be true to yourself
A soulmate will be naturally drawn to the idiosyncrasies and characteristics that set you apart from the crowd. So go ahead and wear that outfit you love yourself in (even though your ex hated it), talk about the movies that make you cry, the music you dance to in the shower, and the dreams that others might scoff at.
Putting on a mask can be tiring. So if you ever find yourself having to channel different personality just to cater to his interests, then you know he is not the one.
Be honest about what you want
You will accept and love yourself more, whatever that is happening in your life — when you live with purpose and design. Be honest about what you want in a relationship rather than trying to model the relationships you see around you. Do you long for a partner you can travel with and explore exotic destinations? Or do you love going to parties and festivals (or a little of both)?
Most of all, be open to all possibilities — you never know what the universe will deliver! Don’t be quick to judge and have faith in the law of attraction. When you release your positive thoughts into the universe, you give it the power to transform your dream mate into a soulmate. So relax, take some deep breaths and then take the time to look into the eyes and smile at those around you — your soulmate may be smiling back.
Learn more about how you can steal someone’s attention via our podcast titled Flirting (Episode 5) on Off Limits. While we can’t guarantee that you’ll find love straight away, at least you’ll be one step closer.