How Your Birth Order Affects Your Relationships

Our emotional and social development are shaped by our childhood experiences and our rank in the family. Technically, the first, middle and youngest children have different responsibilities. Whether we like it or not, whilst growing up, we were treated differently and had separate responsibilities compared to our siblings.

There were different expectations on how we were supposed to behave too. For example, first-born children are expected to be responsible and kind while youngest-born children don’t have the burden of these expectations.

Did you know that being the first, middle, youngest and only child can have an impact on your relationships? Read on to find out more, including some insight as to your ideal partner based on their birth order.

First child

First born children often have all the attention directed to them from a young age. There are two types of firstborns in relationships. There’s the dominant one, who is more controlling in a relationship and prefers to make decisions. Then there’s the compliant one, who tends to be more people-pleasing and caring. Count a last-born partner as your best match because you’ll be able to bounce off each other’s vibe. Otherwise, dominant firstborns match with compliant ones pretty well. Opposites do attract!

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Middle child

Middle children are more willing to rebel and try new experiences. In relationships, they tend to be good at compromising and making their partner happy. However, middle children may have got a little less love from their parents than the oldest and youngest child. They may be insecure in their love life and need constant reassurance, but will choose to hide their feelings. The best match for a middle-born would be a last-born because they tend to be more easygoing in relationships. The middle-born half would contribute to life adventures and the last-born half would encourage their partner to communicate their feelings.

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Youngest child

As the baby of the family, youngest-born children receive the most love and attention from their parents, even more so than firstborns. They tend to be spoiled sometimes, and hence may feel entitled to things in a relationship. It’s nothing wrong  – they’re just used to getting things their way. Last-born children can match with middle-borns and firstborns. Middle born partners will find it easier to compromise with their last-born partners while first-born partners tend to make wiser decisions.

Only child

An only child may swing both ways – they may crave attention from their partner because it’s what they’re used to while growing up. Otherwise they may prefer to be left alone, because they despised the attention. They may grow into similar personalities as either first-borns or last-borns. As long as you figure out which personality spectrum you’re one, you’ll know which partner you’re compatible with?

Of course, this best match is not the say all be all of your relationship. If you and your partner don’t match the criteria, at least you’ll both understand each other’s personalities better. Do you agree with this article? Let us know in the comments below.