How To Help Yourself Heal Your Broken Heart

Breakups and heartbreaks are hard, but for most of us, they are an inevitable part of life.

Whether you were the one who chose to end the relationship or the one who got the short end of the stick, a break up can leave you wondering if you’d ever be good enough to find someone else.

So if you feel like it’s time to slow down on the grieving and move on, here is how you can help yourself heal from the heartbreak and be 100% whole again.

Acknowledge that you can’t re-do your relationship

No more “what-ifs” and self-blame. Accept that the story of your relationship is over, even if it was a good story. You can’t turn back time, so try not to replay those conversations in your mind. Think of the good times, and be grateful for them, but remember that you have a new life now. You can’t re-do this relationship, but you can always begin a new one in the future (preferably with someone else).

Reach out and build a support system

Every time you want to reach out to your ex (even if it’s just to ask him “How are you?”) choose to text your besties instead. Reaching out to your ex isn’t forbidden, but it’s not exactly the best step if you want to heal your broken heart. All those memories will come back, so go make new memories with your best girlfriends instead. Go a step further by letting your besties know what you need, whether it’s comfort, assurance, or just someone to chill with.

Write a goodbye letter to the one who got away… then burn it

One way to process your feelings and emotions is to write it down. Writing a letter to your ex, along with all the things left unsaid. Write as if you have all the time in the world, so you won’t be in a hurry to get it done. When your letter is finally done, burn it, as if sending your relationship up into the stars.