How To Accept Your Partner’s Dark Past If They’ve Done These
When you get together with someone new, you might somehow overthink the relationship. This is especially if your new partner has a dark past.
You’ll wonder if they have commitment or financial issues, which can be daunting if they do! Should you break up if they do? Experts disagree! Here’s how you can accept your partner’s past with an open mind.
1. A One-Time Cheater
You know the saying, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?” Well this may not be true if the person has cheated only once. Yes, we understand infidelity is a major red flag but Dr. Fran Walfish, Beverly Hills family and relationship psychotherapist and author, told Bustle every situation is different.
If they show remorse, apologised and it’s only a one time thing, you shouldn’t have to worry about anything. Try to understand where the person is coming from and lay out your rules. However, if they’ve cheated multiple times, you could be dating a serial cheater!
2. Financial Mistakes
Money can be the root of all problems. But reality check, everyone has at least once made a mistake of not spending their money wisely. Credit cards due, student loans that are not paid, not having any savings in the account and so many more. But say you’re good with money, you can guide your partner to better money-saving habits. Don’t be afraid to open your heart simply because they’re not financial stable.
Although, if you’ve done everything to help resolve your partner’s money problem yet they splurge like there’s no tomorrow – that’s the time you rethink your relationship.
3. Sexual History
Okay, they’ve slept with a list of women. You panic. Having a number is bad, right? Nah. Don’t let your partner’s sexual history bother you. Well, it is important that you know if they’ve gone for medical checkup especially if they’re sexually active but getting into specifics like the number of people they’ve slept with or kinky things they did with exes shouldn’t get to you.
Don’t compare because you’re different and the sex experience will be different too.