“Fueled By Drugs & Alcohol” Ariana Grande’s Brother Frankie Talks Toxic Obsession With Social Media
In a tell-all with TooFab, the 37-year-old brother to pop sensation Ariana Grande – Frankie Grande – got real about what life was like with alcohol, drugs and social media.
Speaking to TooFab, Grande was quick to caution others about how social media “can absolutely a destroy human being and make you sell your soul,”. Following his appearance on ‘Big Brother’ (a U.S. reality television show) Frankie told Yahoo Entertainment/SiriusXM Volume that his lack of preparation for the torrent of hate and bullying that followed his appearance on the show led to him indulging in drugs and alcohol.
“Things like that, I’d never seen before. All of a sudden I was like, ‘Whoa, people are calling me a f***ot on Instagram. This is horrible!’ I was never bullied in high school, ever; I missed the whole bullying thing, which was wonderful — until I had to deal with it as a fully grown adult. And guess how I handled it? Badly. So, I started going down this hole of pills and alcohol. And then the Manchester bombing happened.”
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Hi my loves! I'm back. 🤗 My prayers, thoughts, meditations and strength has been focused on those families and victims affected by the horrific tragedy in Manchester. I echo my sisters sentiment and say we can not allow hate to propagate hate and fear to propagate fear, but rather come together and spread a message of love, unity, and empowement. And so I say, as I have many times… shine bright…. and when evil comes to drown out your light, to throw shade over your beautiful soul, shine brighter. ✨ I love you all so very much and thank you for your strength during this incredibly difficult time. 💖 (Link in bio to support)
On May 22nd in 2017, Ariana Grande had just finished performing at the Manchester Arena when a shrapnel-laden homemade bomb went off as people were leaving the concert. As a result, twenty-three people lost their lives, 139 were wounded (more than half of them children) while several hundred more suffered psychological trauma. Ariana Grande herself also had to deal with PTSD (but that did not stop her from helping wherever possible).
Frankie says that him not being sober and being unable to support his sister in the aftermath of the horrific incident was a wake-up call. Alongside sobriety, was the understanding that social media had slowly become just as toxic for him.
That event caused me to reevaluate my relationship with social media because it was very unhealthy in my life. It was the device by which I got external validation. I just posted so that people would tell me nice things about myself because I didn’t have any self esteem. Everything that I had was forced or put upon and fueled by drugs and alcohol. It was not a great look.”
Of course, the journey was not an easy one. Openly gay, Grande had to find a way to deal with sobriety as well as the toxicity of social media at a time when he felt like he couldn’t live authentically. What did he do to get to where he is today?
I asked for help. I shut up. I listened too everything that anyone with sober time told me to do. I got clean. I did the work. I stayed clean. I no longer crave to escape life. I crave to live it. I no longer seek to numb. I seek to feel. I no longer fear the past because I have already lived it and I no longer fear the future because it is out of my control. I love myself. I know my worth.”
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today is my 3 year sober birthday! I honestly can not believe it. the gratitude that I am feeling right now for this life beyond my wildest dreams is overwhelming. thank you to all of my amazing friends and family for supporting me on this challenging yet unbelievably rewarding journey. I remember where I was 3 years ago before finally turning my will and my life over to the program of recovery. the lyrics “I’d rather be dry, but at least I’m alive” resonate profoundly with me. I didn’t want to continue on, I was desperate to be sober, but I had no tools to get there… and what a difference three years has made. I have the tools to stay sober every day for the rest of my life now and I get a daily choice weather or not to use those tools. I am proud to say I have used those tools successfully for the past 1,097 days in a row and never plan on stoping. everything happens for a reason. the dark is placed before us so that we can uncover the light, the mistakes we make are designed to help us learn, our moments of weakness are gifts to let us discover our own strength and potential… so rain on me, and i’ll see you as a better happier stronger more spiritually enlightened man on the other side of the storm… grateful for the gifts I learned having survived it. I love you. stay strong. if you are struggling with alcoholism/addiction ask for help… I promise you it will be there for you as soon as you ask. 🙏 SAMHSA HOTLINE: 18006624357 🙏
As for whether or not his world-famous sister has been of help during his journey, Frankie says of Ariana,
i love you with all of my heart. thank you for ALWAYS making me smile. for always ALWAYS being there for me. for lifting me up when i was down. for ALWAYS believing in me, even when i couldn’t believe in myself… i am alive today because you have been the greatest sister a man could have ever asked or hoped for,”
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to my best friend on her golden birthday, i love you with all of my heart. thank you for ALWAYS making me smile. for always ALWAYS being there for me. for lifting me up when i was down. for ALWAYS believing in me, even when i couldn’t believe in myself… i am alive today because you have been the greatest sister a man could have ever asked or hoped for. if i could cast a patronus it would ABSOLUTELY HAVE A HIGH PONYTAIL. 😋 and know i will ALWAYS be there for you… I missed your birthday once cause i was getting my ass sober and i promised i would never miss another… so i am getting my sober ass on a plane and i will be there for you soon. ✈️ i am so proud of you ariana… now. forever. always. ✨ happy happy happy happy birthday… i know it will be filled with love light and joy, and i can’t wait to celebrate with you! 👯🎂
Thankfully Grande can now maintain a healthy personal and social life. The multitalented dancer, actor, singer, producer, television host, Broadway performer and YouTube personality now uses social media to spread positivity and joy.
Now I get to be just get to like live in the moment and I get to try to help people and that’s so much better,”