Does It Matter If You & Your S/O Don’t Have The Same Music Taste?
When we were younger, didn’t we wish we could have a love story like Troy and Gabriella’s or Danny and Sandy’s? The one thing that brought them together besides love is, you got it, music.
Well, we’ve taken to ask a question that no-one does before jumping into a relationship – does it matter if you and your significant other don’t share the same taste in music?
“To me, it really matters,” said Likely editor Nadia Mahmood, a true musical soul. “If we don’t share the same taste in music, I can’t vibe with you. It’s such a turn-off,” she added. Fortunately, Nadia and her partner are enthusiasts of experimental sounds of bass, synth and indie genre.
“If we don’t share the same taste in music, it’s such a turn-off.”
We asked our friends on Twitter, and some shared Nadia’s point of view – that music was a window to their soul and necessary to fuel the relationship.
I don’t think it should matter if you discovered your music taste on your own. But I do find it difficult in a relationship when your S/O connects with people socially because of music and you don’t. https://t.co/vYS5daNahP
— kait (@kaitnotcat) June 20, 2019
They wouldn't be my s/o😥
Forreal, Music is pretty personal so it's so hard to connect to people who hate what you love
— ｓｏｆｔ ｂｏｉ (@chadricyeo) June 20, 2019
To some people, though, having different tastes in music was a way to get to know their partner.
Tbh I don't hv 1 rn, but it won't really matter… I mean, it's a good thing if we clicked on the same thing, but it's better to have different interest that'll spark something like admiration & respect for one another https://t.co/olchHMaUdG
— jehasins (@AzharAhmad23) June 20, 2019
We respect each other’s choices in music. I tak kutuk lagu you, you jgn kutuk lagu2 I suka dgr. Hahaha
— Nurkarmilah Nasir (@mslengleng) June 20, 2019
To be really honest, yes. I’d love to jam together in a car with my mans but most of the time I don’t mind listening to his favourite genre because I’d like to know more about his taste. https://t.co/npK0pYWwjN
— Elisya (@hiuhhlisha) June 20, 2019
My hubby listens to softer music/ghazals while i am a hardcore alternative rock fan,needless to say we all know what happens in the car 😀😀 he's totally fine with it, the rocker in me comes in handy during long drives esp when I belt out my rendition of Seven Nation Army 😍😍 pic.twitter.com/Zwiwl4HFaP
— ™Beam☀️🔆 (@twaincurie) June 20, 2019
What does science say about this? Why is music such an important, although overlooked element in the quest for true love?
Music is a common conversation-starter
Music is a pretty common first date topic, and it can get pretty awkward if your partner asks about Hootie and the Blowfish and you’d respond with, “Wait, who is that?” While it can be something to learn from and experience together, music is the most common first date conversation topic. So, if you’re not a music person… maybe it’s time to pay RM 14.90 for a subscription and leave Spotify on shuffle.
Music determines the level of your ‘attractiveness’
Your music taste can actually influence how attractive you are, as perceived by other people. According to this study, disclosure of musical preference influenced levels of attraction. Liking heavy metal proved to enhance men’s attractiveness but was detrimental to women’s. However, if women liked classical music, it worked in their favour but didn’t do anything for men who liked the same genre.
Anyway, if you and your partner don’t share the same taste in music, you don’t need to be so alarmed. After all, as our friends pointed out, it is a good way to get to know each other. If you guys can’t get on the same wavelength, maybe you just can’t click with each other.
Luckily, we have earphones and headphones now, so if you can’t stand your partner’s taste in music, at least you can plug in and listen to your own. Check out the exclusive final lineup for Good Vibes Fest and stay tuned for our giveaway! See you there!