Do Asian Men Have Less Respect For Women These Days?
Do Asian men have less respect for women nowadays? We hardly hear tales of men who openly assault women back when our parents were growing up… but it could probably mean that there were less cases reported too.
Longkang kalau ada besi penghadang/ tertutup mesti orang tak jatuh. Ni jatuh sebab takde penghalang sebab tu org tu jatuh https://t.co/BK9QNxNoHi
— katsaridaphobia (@wan_dehe) April 21, 2019
In the past week, women have been compared to longkang, unwrapped lollipops, turtles without shells, basically anything but humans, really. Disrespect, somehow, is rooted deep in childhood. Young boys may observe how the women around them are treated, and start to believe it’s normal to treat other women the same way.
Let’s take a look at some of these high-profile incidents and hopefully, we’ll learn a thing or two from them.
Just a few weeks ago, Big Bang band member Seungri was accused of supplying prostitutes to foreign investors and being part of an online group chat that shared sexually explicit videos of women, some who appear to have been drugged.
The world of Japanese pop has not been spared from scandals like these, as the band leader of AAA Naoya Urata has been arrested by the Tokyo Metropolitan police for physically assaulting a woman after she rejected his advances.
#rap PU Abu hari ini membuat permohonan maaf menerusi Instagram atas tindakannya menceraikan isteri, Ain Afini yang sedang sarat mengandung untuk berkahwin dengan seorang janda. https://t.co/O25lYAzJNw
— RAP Harian Metro (@myhmrap) April 22, 2019
Let’s not forget that earlier this week, the news broke that a celebrity Pencetus Ummah abandoned his heavily pregnant wife to marry a divorcee. What’s worse – we later found out that he went for a pilgrimage together with his girlfriend while his wife was already pregnant. Talk about someone who has no respect for women and holy places altogether.
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Sebenarnya tak komen lagi bagus tapi…. macam nilah… pada saya bukan juga soal PU or whatever Dai’ ceraikan isterinya waktu sarat TAPI si Abu miang ni dok bercinta dengan perempuan lain (tak kisahlah Janda atau tidak) lepas baru dua bulan berkahwin dan sedang menanti kelahiran cahaya mata sulung. Like seriously? Dua bulan??? Pada saya sebenarnya lagi merana hidup sekiranya terpaksa berhadapan dengan suami yang sedang angau dengan wanita lain. So memang elok lah dilepaskan. But the fact that he fell in love with another women after just 2 months of marriage is just absurd. . Buat para lelaki (tak kisahlah Ustaz ke tidak) Fitnah wanita ni memang terlalu hebat. JANGAN mula. JANGAN berani -berani tanya khabar and disguise it with something else. It’s not worth it. Not worth the heartache and emotional pain that your wife has to go through. Tak berbaloi berantakan rumah tangga dan berpecah belah keluarga kerana seorang wanita demi mengejar nafsu yang tidak pernah kenal erti puas. Lepas tu suruh mereka sabar demi agama dan demi pahala sedang hang happy melayan nafsu. Eloklah tu. . Buat Encik Abu semoga Allah buka hati dan mata. Buat Hana Azra (yang kena sama nama dengan anak I ni kenapa *grrrr*?) benarkah anda boleh berbahagia di atas kesengsaraan wanita lain? It’s not worth it. Satu hari nanti anda akan menyesal. Oklah sorry komen banyak sangat pasal rumah tangga orang. Cuma saya sempat check siapa Abu ni dengan dua orang rakan yang kenal beliau sebelum post ni. Now to all men, go home and for goodness sake just love your wife! . Sekian Ustaz dan orang beragama gatal are truly disgusting… I can’t stand their jokes especially randomly dropping hints about marrying another on social media or in their ceramah… (tak class la Ustaz) not taking into account the feelings of their wives or women. Try educating men to value and respect women instead. Above all, they think they can get away with it because they are alim, because they are men and use whatever verses or Hadith to justify their bloody gatalness. Be a man. Respect your wife first and foremost. . #donedakwah 🤭😬😓🙏 -Bukan PU, Dai’ atau Ustajah- Just a woman, daughter, wife and mother.
He was called out by almost everyone with common sense, including actress Wardina Saffiyah. The actress took to social media to express her views.
“Gatal preachers and religious men are truly disgusting,” she wrote in a scathing Instagram post. “I can’t stand their jokes especially randomly dropping hints about marrying another on social media or in their ceramah not taking into account the feelings of their wives or women,” she added.
*Diserang dan disamun di MRT
*Dirogol dalam perjalanan ke sekolah
*Dilanggar motor bf sendiri
*Perlu lakukan extra pemeriksaan sebelum buang air takut kena rekod kamera serupa skru.
Some random man:
BeNCi LaDIeS CoACH kAT KTM. KaTA WaNiTa NaK HaK Yg SaMA DgN LelAki.
— Saranikka (@Nikkasara) March 23, 2019
Yet men still have the audacity to complain about designated train coaches for women and designated parking spaces for women. First of all, how dare you? Second of all, if men didn’t go around assaulting women, maybe we wouldn’t need these facilities designated to protect women anyway. FYI the coach is for single ladies or a group of ladies only. If you see ladies travelling in the regular coach, they probably have male companions. Luckily, patrolling initiatives have begun to remove men from ladies’ coaches.
It’s honestly time for men to respect women – yes, all women. Not just their wife, daughters and mothers. Not just women they’re terrified of. Sexism doesn’t just hurt women. They hurt men too. For example, traditional values would assume that women are primary caretakers of the household, while men are mostly helpers. This puts the burden of childcare on women, and says that men are not as good with children as women are.
We can change this by not objectifying women, which also, sadly affects young girls. Everyone may speak out against objectification of women, not just women alone. Listen to women when they tell their stories, don’t just jump to conclusions and blame the victim. Of course, take it up with the authorities and press them if you feel like a case is moving nowhere. We can’t exactly stop this immediately, but step by step, we’ll make the world a better place for our daughters to grow up in.