Being A 30 Year Old Virgin Is Freaking Awesome
What’s so bad about being a virgin? Or like what the aunties say, ‘anak dara tua’. The western movies always depict virgins as losers, lame and so uncool. But does that apply to Asians? In reality, we are more conservative and shy when it comes to talking about virginity.
A survey conducted by global condom manufacturer, Durex, found that Malaysians are the oldest when it comes to losing their virginity. It also revealed that the average age for Malaysians to pop their cherry is 23.7 years old. Hence, its definitely not a surprise if you’re still a virgin at 30 years old!
Heck, so what if you are? At times, you may question yourself, if there was something wrong with you or perhaps think if you’re going to die a virgin alone. STOP!
You know what you want
And you are going to get it! At the age of 30 years old, your brain and thoughts have already matured. You’re dead serious about who you want to be with. Forget boys, you want a man who can treat his lady right. We mean EVERYTHING!
You’re comfortable enough to pleasure thyself
Hey, who say virgins can’t have fun! You don’t need a man to satisfy your sexual needs and somewhat believe you might even be better than guys. Oh, the porn videos must have freaked you out huh! At any case, if you’re still experimenting with your partner, there’s always outercourse sex.
You don’t have any foolish regrets for losing it to some jerk!
Whether it’s because of religion or your personal believe, this is a choice that you feel strongly about. As a grown a** woman, peer pressure doesn’t affect you anymore. Say what they want but at the end of the day, this is your body. No more trying to blend in the crowds, forcing yourself to get over it and feeling like crap over some guy who took advantage of you.
You get to focus more on building your career, family, friends and yourself
One night stands? You’re just going to Netflix and chill alone! Rather than put yourself through misery of ‘WTF who did I do yesterday’, you get to spend time on yourself. Casual sex can also affect ones mental health.
A study on mental health associations of hookup sex reported that participants who were not depressed before showed more depressive symptoms and loneliness after engaging in casual sex. Who wants that, when you’re happy just the way you are? Without this distraction, it gives you space to grow your career too.
Sex may not be a big deal to some, but others, it’s something so precious. That’s okay! The term ‘ready’ differs for everybody but the one thing you should keep in mind is that – YOU ARE NOT ALONE.