Before You Text (Back) Your Ex, Consider This

Nostalgic memories make people want to re-connect. True. And a past love interest can sometimes stir up more easily than a new one. Festive seasons, birthdays and anniversaries are springboards for exes to resurface, (I’m talking about those random ‘’You Up?’’ text messages at 2am!). Especially if you were the one who called it quits or there was no authoritative conclusion on the relationship. 

Festive seasons, birthdays and anniversaries are springboards for exes to resurface

It’s normal to think about the entirety of the incredible reminiscence you’ve had together after a breakup. Or out of nowhere you started to realize and become more focused on the positive characteristics of your ex-beau. It is a typical procedure for people to think back about the past, and as frequently, the more you playback the image of memory in your mind, the picture becomes more and more rosy and opss, you suddenly forget all of the reasons why you broke up with them in the first place. 

When you notice yourself beginning to groggily remember the highlight reels of your past relationship, shift your thoughts to something different. Intrude on your thoughts by engaging in an activity that requires some psychological center, read a book or do some house chores. Get out and socialize with friends, catch up with your sister, enjoy some karaoke session with your cousins. Get your brain off things! Repeat this tip each time you notice your thoughts wandering to the good ole’ days. After some time, you’ll find that you reminisce less and less, and it will become easier to redirect your thinking.  

Intrude on your thoughts by engaging in an activity that requires some psychological center, read a book or do some house chores. Get out and socialize with friends, catch up with your sister, enjoy some karaoke session with your cousins.

In the end, whatever purpose behind your toxic ex reaching out, just remember you are the owner of your own destiny. Creating your own farewell mantra will assist you with achieving a conclusion. Move forward from this chapter in your life as you welcome the following ”healthy” chapters. Now, put your phone down, sis. 

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