If Your Relationship Doesn’t Feel Real, You May Be In A Situationship
Have you heard of a ‘situationship?’ If you’ve ever dated someone who didn’t want to put a label on your relationship, then you’ve probably been in a situationship (not a relationship)
Situationships are relationships that have no label on them, which means you could possibly be in a relationship with someone, but not be boyfriend-and-girlfriend. Essentially, a situationship refers to people who are dating but don’t want to say it, or friends with benefits.
If you’re seeing someone one-on-one on a regular basis and making out, but you’re not boyfriend-and-girlfriend yet then you’re probably in a situationship. Here’s what it’s like and how to get out of one, and change it into something meaningful, if you wish.
Situationships aren’t necessarily bad
When you’re in the early stages of a relationship, you probably don’t want to be pressured into becoming someone’s “girlfriend” until you know them better. Situationships can allow people to get to know each other and figure out what they want from a relationship. Are you a “girlfriend,” a “rebound” or simply “friends with benefits”? Situationships allow you to figure out these relationships and explore.
Situationship vs. relationship
If you’re spending time abroad and don’t have the desire to settle down, a situationship would probably be best for you. This way, you can go on dates with people without feeling like you’re being tied down. If you know the relationship isn’t going to work out anyway, then you don’t need to define it. Meanwhile, we can’t deny that a relationship requires a lot of effort from both parties because you’d expect it to work out in the end. In a relationship, it’s usually monogamous, but in a situationship, you could probably date more than one person.
What if you’re stuck in a situationship… and you want to get out!
Things could get messy if one person has different expectations from their partner. Situationships can become heartbreaking if the person you’re seeing isn’t on the same page as you are. If you’re looking for commitment and yet you feel like you’re low on their priorities list because they “don’t want to define” the relationship, then it’s probably time for a heart-to-heart talk.
Be transparent and express how much you’d prefer an exclusive relationship, but also be prepared to move on if your partner isn’t on the same page as you. It hurts when you’re not in someone’s best interests, and it’s better to break up than to put your heart into a relationship with someone who doesn’t love you as much.
However, if it goes well, and your partner wants to make your relationship exclusive too, then good for you. Go to family events and romantic dates together, begin to plan out your future together. You can’t expect your relationship to change overnight, but hopefully, it’ll turn into something significant for both of you.
Have you been a “situationship”? Tell us about your experience in the comments below!