8 Honest Truths About Dating Someone Who’s Addicted To Gaming
As someone who just spent 7 hours playing The Sims 4, I totally understand how exciting computer games can be. They’re fun, they’re all absorbing, and they provide you a sense of meditation in this fast-paced world of commercialised capitalist madness. And like, who doesn’t need a break from that?
That said, just like there’s a difference between someone who drinks and an alcoholic, there’s a difference between someone who plays video games and “a gamer.” I’m currently dating the latter. You may think it is fun — but there’s a fine line between playing games to release stress and video gaming self-destructively.
But before we go any further, I don’t want this to come across as a boyfriend bash. It’s not. This is an article for all the other partners out there who might’ve went through the same stuff.
1. What responsibilities?
Firstly, I think the line gets crossed when their job begin to suffer. Some people game too much that they start to avoid their actual call of duty, which is to make the dough themselves instead of relying on their parents.
If the gamer is perfectly able and equipped with basic money-making necessities of this modern age (WIFI and a computer), then there shouldn’t be any excuses for them to neglect their responsibilities. Listen, dreams won’t work unless you do. There are so many job opportunities online!
2. As much as they’d like to deny it, they are addicted
“The first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem.” At least that’s what I tell my boyfriend, every so often, when he goes on a twelve hour (or day) binge.
3. “I just need to finish”
The important thing is to learn that when a gamer says this, they could be saying several things — 1) they might be just trying to get to the next save, 2) they could be trying to finish the mission, or 3) they could be trying to beat a boss. It might mean they’ll be done in 5 minutes, it might mean they’ll be done in 2 hours, and if your significant other has got a “raid” in Apex Legends to finish, you may as well just go to sleep, to be honest.
4. Goodbye, sleep
Online gaming or streaming is where they release their stress, anger, and anxiety. Literally. Yes, games may get them angry — at times — but they also relieve an incredible amount of stress. Going around slaughtering monsters is great therapy, you know. Then again, they might scream and shout while you’re sleeping, so..
5. They stream to make their problems go away
When you encounter a problem, you’ll usually use a set of combos to fix your life. Maybe you’d allow yourself to feel bad for a while and drink your sorrows away, then, you’d pick up the pieces and get your act together. That seems not too bad.
However, when someone is unable to tolerate any discomfort, they tend to use their gaming addiction to avoid facing difficult situations. If they’re unaware or in denial about this, they will essentially use gaming indefinitely to put off ever dealing with their problems, and this is where shit gets really bad.
6. Gamers are loyal
With all of this in mind, I am not saying I don’t get a look in compared to his games. I do. He’ll send me a text message every day to say I love you. As soon as he sees me, he gives me the biggest kiss like he’s not seen me in months. He ain’t cheating with anyone else. He’s just sitting on the couch being a virtual cowboy and riding around on a horse named Jon Bon Pony.
7. Gamers are never boring
These types of humans have the tendency to use their imagination in everything. Because they spend a lot of time playing video games, they actually see the world as their own personal playground. Every single date is an adventure. They’re usually game for anything! In fact, they’re so game that you’ll constantly have the most creative, silly and unique moments together.
8. Gamers are good with their hands
What doesn’t kill them makes those fingers stronger. No need to go into depth because… Well that’s self-explanatory. *wink wink*
On that premise, for those struggling with a partner who is addicted to gaming, my advice would be to look at what you want in life. What are the pros and cons of staying with your partner? In the end, you need to decide what you want for your future — is it life beyond video games?