3 Reasons You Shouldn’t Share All Of Your Friends With Your Partner
When you marry someone or even get into a serious relationship, sharing your things is pretty common. From finances, spaces and even friends. His friends become yours and vice-versa. Normal right?
But according to Kevin Darné, the author of My Cat Won’t Bark! (A Relationship Epiphany), he talks about the importance of keeping friendships separate from your partner. Not all of your friends, but your girl group or work wives, perhaps? Of course, you should introduce your spouse to your close friends!
Here are three big reasons why having your own set of girlfriends is so important.
1. The privacy to rant
There are just moments in life where you need to vent, even about your partner. Darné tell expressing your frustrations is good for you. However, in order to get things off your chest, you’d need friends who are loyal to you.
Darné says, “The benefit of being able to open up to someone without fearing everything you say will get back to your spouse or partner is reassuring.”
2. Takes the pressure off your partner
A lot of people don’t realise the weight a partner carries in the relationship. They’re your lover, friend, confidant, partner in crime and so many more. But they can’t be EVERYTHING and they should not. Talk about pressure!
Just because you’re in a relationship/married, that doesn’t mean you have to do everything together. Darné explains. “Odds are, they would rather hear about you having a great time than having to suffer through a compromise by attending an event with you.”
3. Friends act as your safety net
We can’t help it but sometimes, married couples do end up getting a divorce. It’s essential that you have your own friends to grieve and rely on for emotional support.
Darné says, “Whenever someone goes through a divorce or even a painful breakup if all of their friends are tied to their former mate, they can easily feel cut off and alone.”
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